How to Treat Your Kids’ ADHD—Without a Doctor
A year ago, Tyler wrote a book about his struggles with ADHD, but it was a lot less accessible than he expected.
“I had to write a book for my children, and the first time I read it I was like, ‘Oh, my god, what are you talking about?'” he said.
“This is such an incredibly simple topic, and it’s so easy to miss, and that’s when I knew I had to talk to a professional.”
So he began talking to Tyler and the parents of kids with ADHD and found a solution that made sense for all of them.
“You get to know them,” Tyler said.
He began reading Tyler’s book, and after four days of talking to him, he decided to go public with his story, telling the New York Times that he felt “very guilty” for his family’s troubles and that Tyler had saved his life.
Tyler, a professor at Harvard Medical School, says that his advice to other parents is to try to listen and empathize with your child’s needs—and that if your child is not on medication, get to the point where you know what is working and what isn’t.
And if you have to talk, ask questions.
If you’re dealing with a serious issue, like a doctor or family member who is struggling, Tyman says, “You just have to say, ‘I need help, and I’m listening.'”
When Tyler was diagnosed with ADHD in late 2016, he did not know he had the disorder until he had been seeing a doctor in the summer of 2018, and he says that after seeing a neurologist, he was prescribed an anti-depressant.
He has been seeing the same doctor for the past two years, and, he said, he is on his meds.
He was not aware of the fact that he had ADHD until recently.
Tyling said that in his experience, he has noticed that “one of the biggest things” that is a challenge for people with ADHD is that they “are very anxious.”
The anxiety comes from the idea that, at some point, they will be diagnosed and treated for the condition.
“There’s something about the way people treat you that’s very scary,” Tyling told me.
“They assume you’re going to get better and they think you’re doing something wrong.
But I think that’s a mistake.
It’s not an indication that you’re not working.”
If you are struggling with ADHD yourself, there are also some other things you can do to help.
Tylin says that “you need to understand what your ADHD is.
You need to know what the disorder is, what your life is like.”
You need help understanding how your ADHD symptoms work, and what you can try to do to address them, Tylin said.
When it comes to medication, he recommends getting the help of a psychiatrist who specializes in ADHD, a psychologist who specializes with children, a family member or a doctor who is familiar with the condition, and a psychologist or social worker who specializes.
“If you’re worried that you might not be able to get the medication that you need, you need to talk with a specialist, because they will tell you what’s working and which ones don’t work,” Tylin told me, and then “be honest and say, well, what’s not working?
Then maybe you’ll be able find someone who can help you.”
The advice to parents, then, is to understand your child better, and to ask questions about what they need and what they can do.
“My advice is to say no to medication and no to stimulants and no,” Tylier said.
You have to be able, he added, “to tell yourself that there’s a way you’re solving your ADHD problems.”
When you do talk with someone, it is important to be honest with them.
In order to help kids with their ADHD, it’s important to get to a point where “you understand that you have the problem,” Tylers said.
This is why he says it’s “critical that people with a condition understand that they are dealing with an ADHD problem.”
Tyler says that when he was talking to his kids, “I was telling them, ‘You’re going through this.
You’re not doing it to be mean to me, you’re just having a hard time dealing with the fact you have ADHD.'”
“I felt so guilty,” he told me when we spoke.
“How could I not want to help them?
I felt so selfish.”
And, he says, the “only thing I’m saying to them is: ‘Listen to me.'”
Tyler told me that, after reading Ty’s book and talking to parents who had ADHD, “there’s so much to be said for a person to say to somebody, ‘It’s okay to be anxious. It